The magical formula to get your baby to sleep through the night

Ha!  I laughed even as I typed that title.  Don't I wish there was a magical formula that made babies sleep.  I don't have a magical formula, but I do have some ideas on how to get your baby to sleep through the night sooner.  Some of these things worked with one of my children but not another, so these are all just suggestions to try...I can't guarantee any amount of success.  I currently have a 3 month old baby boy, who we will call Boo, so I am in the midst of this very dilemma.

Boo is baby #4 and he is my best sleeper by far!  He came home from the hospital sleeping 6 hour stretches at night!  I'm not sure it's anything I did or didn't do that caused that, but I'll tell you what I have been doing, because it can't hurt to try.  I mean, who doesn't want 6 hours of sleep at night with a newborn!

I wake Boo up every 3 or so hours during the day to nurse him.  He usually wakes up on his own now, but in the beginning, I had to do the waking.  I would usually undress him to get him awake enough to eat.  I tried to keep him awake for a little bit after he ate, so he would be more tired and sleep longer.  I never woke him at night though.  I have always just let him sleep as long as he can once 11pm came. 

I also swaddle him when I want him to sleep.  Being baby #4, Boo spends a good amount of time in our baby swing or bouncy seat throughout the day.  If he happens to fall asleep in those seats, I just let him sleep without being wrapped.  If I want him to sleep for a larger chunk of time, I will swaddle him and put him in his bed.  We are currently using a Fisher Price rock and play sleeper. 

It has been fantastic because it is portable, so I can have him sleep wherever I am and keep an eye on him so no other little people bother him.  For swaddling, I use the Swaddle Me Blankets.  Well worth the money!

I am breastfeeding Boo.  I have done the same with all 4 of my children.  Let me tell you some background so you know what this has to do with sleeping through the night.  I've had to tailor my diet to each of my babies sensitivities.  With my oldest, M, I couldn't eat much of anything with flavor.  She was sensitive to onions, garlic, chocolate, dairy and caffeine.  Actually, I couldn't even drink decaf coffee with her...it was tough!  I lost a good bit of weight while nursing her, so the trade off wasn't so bad.  With #2, C, I could have chocolate, dairy and decaf coffee, but none of the other things I already listed.  She wasn't as sensitive and I added the other things back in rather quickly.  With #3, Bubba, I could eat pretty much anything with the exception of caffeine.  And, on round #4, it's more of the same as Bubba. 

All this to say, what you eat does affect your milk.  It may not affect your baby the same way as mine, but it does affect it.  I have never had caffeine with any of my young babies, and they have all slept great from the beginning.  I also know people who have had caffeine from the beginning, and their babies sleep great too!  I'm not telling you to not have caffeine, but if your baby is having a hard time sleeping, maybe try cutting it out to see if it helps.  Cutting it out would mean not having any for at least a week, so it has time to fully be out of baby's system.  Caffeine is residual...so it last's longer in baby's system than yours.

Finally, I put my baby down.  Some babies love to cuddle and be rocked, but at some point, most babies just want to be put down to sleep.  They can get over stimulated very easily.  Holding, rocking, singing, patting....any of those things can overstimulate quickly.  I find myself trying to rock Boo to sleep when I have the chance, but he just wants to be left alone to fall asleep on his own.  So, don't be afraid to put your baby down and let them fuss a little to put themselves to sleep.  Boo doesn't scream or cry a lot, just a little fussing, and then he's out.

If you have any tips you've tried to get your baby to sleep through the night, let me know!  I'm always looking for new things to try!

A Baby Nursery

When you are expecting a baby, people always ask how you will decorate the proverbial nursery.  It may not be the first or biggest question to be asked, but it ranks pretty high up there...at least in my experience.  I've been pondering this question because I've never had a baby nursery to "set up" for any of my 4 children.

With my first baby, we lived in a very small (and I mean one car garage small) apartment, with only one bedroom; ours.  So, she didn't have a room.  With baby number two, same deal.  I finally got to decorate a room for them when we moved into our new home.  Now I am just finally getting to decorate a room for baby number three, who is nearly two.  Because I am just finishing that project, I have been reflecting on not ever having a nursery to bring my children home to and I've come to some conclusions.

First, a baby doesn't really need a room...just a bed.  You don't send a baby to his/her room for any reason really.  Baby can usually sleep wherever his/her bed is placed, so it really doesn't matter.  Does a baby admire any pictures or curtains or furniture?  No.  Does a baby have likes and dislikes when it comes to a theme in a room?  No.  Will you use the baby's room for the first few weeks or months of his/her life?  Probably not.  So the conclusion is...a baby doesn't need a nursery...a mommy really does.

Now, if you are blessed enough to be able to decorate a baby nursery, that is wonderful!  I'm not begrudging you that pleasure.  I would have loved to be able to decorate 4 different nurseries for my children!  It is so much fun deciding what theme you will use, and colors and bedding and furniture.  It's a great sense of accomplishment when the room is "ready".  Please don't think I'm saying that having a nursery is in any way indulgent.  It's a wonderful thing to be in a place to decorate and prepare a place for your new baby.

But, in my case, not having a nursery to decorate almost made me feel like I wasn't adequately preparing for my babies.  I've since learned that none of my children care, or will even remember where they slept or spent time for the first year or so of their lives.  So, if you have a nursery, or if you are preparing a nursery, count your blessings in being able to do so.  If you don't have a nursery, know that your babies will love you just the same, and you have one less room to keep clean.

My "Qualifications"

I figure I had better lay some ground work before I "dive" into this little piece of the www.  I am the oldest of 7 children and currently have 4 of my own children.  All growing up, I was a "second mother" to several of my younger siblings.  As a result of that, I had some experience in "mothering" before I became an actual mother.  I mean, you can't really know what motherhood is like until you are a mother...not just an older sister, but it did give me some insight I wouldn't have otherwise had.

I say all that to "qualify" myself to embark on this journey.  I know as a mother I receive all kind of advice from well meaning older women (and sometimes men) on how to successfully "do" this thing called "being a mom".  I usually hear them out, then go on my merry way.  Sometimes I take what they have to say and implement it into my life, other times, I don't.  Either way, they feel some sense of joy in "helping" me (even if the advice isn't really helpful), and I sometimes receive some wise insight I wouldn't have otherwise known.

I also have several friends who are moms who hand out advice to me on occasion.  I treat this the same way as the above advice.  These women are in the same stage as me, so they are learning things right alongside me.

So, this blog is a place for me to "hand out advice" to all of you who are looking for it.  You can take it or leave it.  Really, do what you want with it.  I won't be offended...I don't offend easily.  I just know that I like to help people in any way that I can.  I like to offer advice to other moms because I genuinely want them to succeed and enjoy raising their children.

I've also considered that no one will really read this blog, and that's okay too.  I just enjoy unwinding and giving my "two cents" to anyone who will listen...even if it's just the computer.  So, if you dare, join me on this journey!

Resentment is not Contentment

Today was a rough day as a wife.  I began the day by having a hormonal attitude with my husband, and then feeling guilty about it only an hour later.  I apologized, and my husband is oh so forgiving.  He rarely, if ever, reminds me of all the times I have been less than respectful and loving towards him.  Not a great way to start the day.

Today was also a rough day as a mom and teacher.  L has been extremely whiny lately, and it has been wearing me down.  He is getting a tooth, so he has good reason to be uncomfortable, and he can't verbalize what he is feeling in words, so he whines.  I understand it, but I don't like it.  He's also at the age where he gets upset and whines when he doesn't get what he wants.  It's been difficult to instruct him in the correct way to handle these upsets, when he is whining about pain too.  As a result of this, we didn't get all of our school work finished today.  I have learned that I need to give myself a little wiggle room right now, because we are still adjusting to having a new baby, along with beginning Kindergarten.

H has been very fussy the last day or so as well.  He has wanted to eat more often than I have scheduled for.  I realize he needs to eat to grow, and I feed him when he needs to eat, but feeding him every 2 hours has been hard for this very scheduled momma.  The Lord is teaching me to cherish my children, as I so often forget to do.

I've also been struggling with resentment.  I'm resentful of others ability to look so slim and well put together.  I'm resentful that I didn't have lots of help after having baby number 4 (as a side, my husband was a HUGE help).  I'm resentful that we don't have the money to make life a little more "comfortable".  I'm resentful that I'm dealing with postpartum depression issues.  I'm just very resentful right now.

As I was praying about this resentment, the Lord brought to mind that I am to be content in my situation.  So, I am working on getting rid of my resentment, and living in contentment.  Very difficult, but oh so worth it.

Where to start...

Today marks the beginning of a new adventure for me.  This blog.  I've tried to start two other blogs before, and I failed to continue to post.  This is going to be my outlet after long days of being a wife, mom, and teacher (homeschooling mom).  I've realized that in order to keep my sanity and not have a breakdown, I need to talk about my day.  I figured this is as good a place as any.

I have always struggled with writing a back story, or playing catch up when I feel I've gotten behind.  I given myself permission to not feel behind this time.  I will just post what I need to "confess" the day I write.  I will start with a short back story, but this is the only time I will feel the need to "play catch up".

Almost six weeks ago I gave birth to our fourth child.  I expected the transition to be a hard one, after all I struggled immensely at the transition after child number three.  Much to my surprise, it was a pretty natural transition.  I began Kindergarten with M the day after I came home from the hospital, and we have been doing relatively well ever since.

Today, I had my postpartum check up.  Everything looks good and I've been given the green light to resume regular activity.  All you moms know what that means to hubby.  Ha!  I also talked with my OBGYN about non hormonal birth control.  Without getting into too much detail, I didn't get the answer I was hoping for.  That didn't help my emotional state at the moment.

I've been dealing with postpartum depression symptoms for the last couple of weeks, and I've been trying to suppress talking about it much, or really dealing with my feelings.  This is the top reason I decided to start this blog; I need to talk about it somewhere.  So, thanks for listening.